Age is a funny thing. We tend to assume it’s the same for everyone, but what’s truly incredible is when you take a moment to understand how age is, in fact, completely different on all who wear it. For some it brings wisdom, others bitterness or loneliness, and for the luckiest of us all; complete gratitude for all we have seen, experienced and enjoyed.

I love so many well aged individuals that I’ve met on travels all around the world, and at home. Some of the most beautiful women I know have been divorced (once or more), married again, widowed, lost children, endured war and depressions, and still live lives filled with a brilliant style of joy.

My grandmother in particular, at 91 never stops trotting around with a humungous, never ending, grin on her gorgeous wrinkly face. Her eyes sparkle, despite the hardships she’s seen, every story is told with a chest bubbling giggle, and she never forgets that laughter at herself is the most important kind. Grandma is the oldest 21 year old girl I’ve ever been privileged enough to experience, and she is appreciated by all she encounters. To describe her as a wine that’s improved with age doesn’t show her justice. She’s more an ever fresh lemonade that you just never tire of, or a delightful Grandma trifle made with love.

There’s lessons to learn a plenty from the aged. The most important, I feel, is that right now, no matter where you are, you are ‘choosing’ how you age. Your current mindset and outlook, are creating your own unique style of wrinkles and saggy bits. Really think about it, and begin designing something stunningly wrinkly. 


Tonight I sit alone in the darkness, the warmth of the fire taking the chill off the brisk winters night. I’ve moved the mattress into the lounge room, taking full advantage of the cracking flames, and created what Brendon would call ‘the pit’, I’ve surround myself with pillows and a heavy feather duvet.

Wind whistles through the veranda beams, pressing erratically against the window frames, causing them to shudder in response. I’m happy here. Tonight, the pitch black and the present elements are friends. I am safe. I am whole. The feeling’s of anxiousness and unease that have plagued my body this last few days, pressing in on all sides and constricting my chest until I was sure my heart would shatter or stop beating, have eased. I now control my soul and focus on healing once more. Or maybe my soul controls me? Whatever the answer, for tonight we are at peace.

 


We all get stuck sometimes, even in our most inspiring life moments. However, we also know that if we obsess over feelings of apathy, we’ll just end in a vibrational purgatory that produces more of the same! Here are some quick but powerful ways to get unstuck and back on top of life.

Find The Source

If you don’t already know, figure out the real origin of your feeling of being stuck. Is it do with relationships, your career, your finances, your living situation, or your social life? Perhaps it’s a combination of multiple things.

For each area where you feel stuck, write a sentence describing why you feel stuck. Solutions often naturally fall out of this process.

Deliberately Leave Your Comfort Zone

Often, feeling stuck has a lot to do with getting too comfortable and avoiding risk—you might tell yourself you’re avoiding pain, but you’re also preventing personal growth. Challenge yourself to come up with 3-5 new things you want to do but haven’t yet tried.

Change Your Surroundings

Our environment impacts on our hearts and minds, so adapting the world around you can give you the shift in perspective that you need in order to get unstuck. You could make a big change (such as redecorating), but even smaller changes like moving the furniture or eating at new restaurants can start to make you think differently.

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Work On Accepting All Emotions

Paradoxically, fighting against the feeling of stuck will sometimes keep you in that place or make you feel even worse (like struggling in quicksand). You may find what you need is to learn to accept how it feels to be stuck, acknowledging that it is temporary and releasing your resistance. A daily mindfulness practice can help with this.

Get Physical

Just as adapting your home can jog something loose in your thinking, so too can adopting a more physical life. You may find that running, swimming, dancing or even walking helps you get into the proactive mindset you need to make major changes. This is a quick fix for passing feelings of being stuck, and also a longer term solution that brings new energy to your life.

Give Yourself Permission To Dream

We often impose arbitrary limits on our thoughts, to the extent that we don’t even always allow our brains to fantasize freely. Strike a deal with yourself, letting your mind go wherever it wants—don’t shut it down if it goes somewhere unfamiliar or uncomfortable. You may just find that your subconscious already knows how to get you out of your rut.

Identify Patterns

Finally, ask yourself when in life you’ve previously felt this way. What was causing that stuck feeling, and are there similarities to your present situation? What helped you, and what (if anything) seemed to make things worse? This quick exercise can reacquaint you with dormant skills and help you to see how you can avoid some of the most commonly repeating triggers for stuckness.


I’m sitting here in bed at 3:11pm on a Sunday afternoon feeling luckier than a kid with a lollie pop. It’s warm and snuggly, I’ve got re runs of ER playing and one of my boys on either side of me 🙂 One incredibly fluffy and cuddly Maine coon cat named Elwood and my favourite Beast, Brendon. They’re both passed out and softly snoring. It’s blissful 🙂 FullSizeRender

There was a time in my life where I would have been pretty damn pissed off right now. Especially as my lovely boyfriend went to a sports bar last night to watch the football, and at 4:30am this morning, let me know he was crashing at a mates place. Yeah this adorable man beside me is hung over as f#*k, with a rather thumping head ache.

And then theres Elwood, who at about 10am tried to bring a screaming rodent through the cat door!

But you know what? You can’t control people or even pets and you have to love them completely. These guys, I could not love more 🙂 We’re connected in this crazy little family we have and forgiveness is such a great thing. The light and the love flowing around this bedroom is pretty amazing. I am one grateful lady on a snuggly Sunday like this.

So next time you feel as though maybe you should get angry, remember all the great parts about those hung over hubby days 😉

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